What do you do when your child is doing drugs?

There are some will say a child has to experience things in life to know for self.You have some that will stand idle and do nothing and they lose their child to the streets,prison,even death.Do you call the police?Do you punish with grounding or physical punishment[spanking]?Do you just talk with them?What is the correct response.As I continue to stress the ultimate goal is to find solutions to save the children.

Teenage Suicide !!

I have a friend that  a friend of the family suffered the tradgedy of a 15 year old  boy commit suicide last week.As this is the age of my own son I took it to heart even more than just a sorrowful feeling for the family,my friend and most of all the child.As I spoke in other posts many children live in fear and have nowhere they feel comfortable turning to for help.I asked myself the question what could have been so bad in his life that he would see this as his only way out?What was he going through?As I thought of it I wondered how many others might go through this, so I did some research.I was shocked to find that for every teen suicide, 25 more teens have yet attempted suicide.You have many factors,Depression,Drugs,and Abuse mainly.Suicide is the 3rd LEADING cause of death to teens.This is huge in my eye.What do we do to prevent things like this? We are not there to know what our children or any child is subjected to on a constant basis.So what are the signs to look for?I am sure this is something the family didn't know was going to happen or they would have done all they could to make things better.Showing Love,  not  control is the first thing I say.You can have a good child and not control them and belittle them or hurt them emotionally or physically.As I continue to stress, let your child know they can talk to you about anything.Being a friend does not stop your status as a parent or a grown up children can talk to.In my research some of the signs to look for,[Disinterest in favorite activities,substance abuse,behavioral problems,withdrawing from family and friends,change in eating habits,neglecting hygiene and personal appearance,complains frequently of boredom,decline in grades,hard time concentrating.]These are some of the things to look for.Don't take for granted your child is not a candidate to have this problem,don't let it happen and then say I should have done this and that,after it happens.These are cries for help,it is our responsibility to help not just our own but all those in need of help.Question: Who will help those that can't help themselves ? 

Parent Protection,what do you do?

I was talking with a friend and she was telling me of her situation.I said this is the place I hope we can come and discuss issues,give input and work on solutions.As a parent the process of protecting our children does not reach an age limit.I told my friend I was making the conversation my next blog.Her Daughter is of legal age to be on her own.She has a boyfriend that is controlling and he sells drugs.There is a child in the picture also,her grandson.Now we know the safety of the child is at the top of the list.Her daughter is doing what she is told by this BAD GUY in her life.I say bad because one he is endangering the child and two no one should try and control another person.What do you do as a loving concerned parent besides add it to your prayers,You don't  want the grandson to fall to tradgedy.A child can eat drugs dropped by accident [God forbid],a situation of conflict could cause the child to be hurt or even killed [like if someone came to Rob the dealer].You also don't want the grandson taken a put in state custody. Now if your child is listening to the boyfriend and you aren't even allowed to see the child or grandson,I want some input on what is the next step you take. What do you do now to communicate with your child,what do you say to make them listen where it is understanding and not taken as criticism?We  never stop protecting our children no mater how old.But we must understand how to continue to have open communication no matter what the Age. Question: Who will help those that can't help themselves?

True Friendship !!

We have many perceptions of what a friend should or should not do.Sometimes our expectations lead to huge disappointments.When we have a true friend there should not be conditions on that friendship.For example I don't have friends for reasons of what they can or will do for me.When we do for one another it should be from the heart not from feeling of obligation.Also we should never feel if a person says no that the issue defines the friendship.What does make a true friend?To me that person is around no matter what,good times or bad times.A listening ear,a shoulder to lean on.All around I am the same to that person.Just because you feel you would do something for a friend and they don't or won't do it for you, doesn't mean they aren't your friend.They are not you.Don't expect to be treated by someone the same as you do them.Let every person have their own standard of living.Sometimes when we expect little we receive alot.We have to be examples to the children.Question:Who will help those that can't help themselves?

Children are effected by Racism !!

Thank you for coming to my site.I am in hopes to dicuss issues that many find uncomfortable but they are necessary to find ways to communicate with our children.Racism and hate are Taught as we all know.This is only an avenue of two possible results,Jail or Death.I don't want my children or any child for that matter to experience either,from lack of knowledge or communication.I am asking that people join me as I discuss issues and solutions.Asking for input where I may lack or not go into in depth.Many children today are living in fear not knowing what to do or where to go for help.Question:Who will help those that can't help themselves?